I moved from Arkansas to my home state Iowa after being granted a divorce in 2006 and custody of my three boys. My ex has reasonable visitation. After the divorce she got in major trouble with the law (she鈥檚 completely different than when we were married) for drugs and child neglect (not my kids) and more, and when we (my boys and I) lived in Arkansas she never wanted to see them, so I left my dead-end job with Walmart (in less than 3 years I was the highest paid hourly manger yet could not move up to salary unless I worked nights) and moved back home to Iowa. I started back to college because I have 3 boys to put through college or help them do what they want to do (as long as they work). Now my ex has contacted me (through email) and says she鈥檚 remarried but doesn鈥檛 have a home they are living with her husband鈥檚 aunt.
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Women are protected , men are not .
Simple as that, it is unfair but that is what the Courts have decided .
It's what happens when citizens vote in Judges with pony tails .
Many schools provide legal aid services or know lawyers who will provide free or reduced services.
If not, you may be able to find a lawyer willing to work on a slidding scale.
On the flip side, if she files for custody, a judge will probally laugh her out of court. She has no home, drug and child abuse convictions and you have a home and a job.
But then again, courts are biased towards women. I would try to find a lawyer through ur school.
Your narrative, which is NOT a question, doesn't give a single example of ANY help for mothers that is not available for fathers. The reason you can't get legal aid in Arkansas has nothing to do with conflict of interest. (They have more than 1 lawyer.) Your problem is, you are not a resident of Arkansas.
IMO both men AND women have it bad when they are single and having to raise the kids...I DO feel for you...
Have you spoke with Lawyers which make take you Pro Bono? There "may" be some out there that would...especially since it sounds like it is a pretty open and shut case and that she should under no circumstances have the kids. Their not having a separate home would make it difficult for her to show that she can actually take care of her kids verses pawning them off on someone else!
EDIT: To the person above me, YES, he DID have a question. It was "Why is there no help for single fathers?" and he is wanting to find out where he can go to get it.
Another whiner. Next time, make certain you get to know your partner better before spawning a family. Single fathers do not have it worse. Nowhere in this disgusting patriarchy do women have it better than men. This society is built on male privilege. You made your life.
If you think a single woman in your situation would get any more help than you are getting, you are either stupid or deluded. All of us have to fight alone when we're trying to protect our children from toxic ex-spouses.
Quit feeling so put-upon. Pull up your socks, and do what you have to do.
If you have documentation (dates, witnesses, narrative of the behavior observed), and proof that she never wanted to see the kids (not just your word), then you can establish that the kids are better off with you. Whether you have a lawyer or not, you end up at the mercy of a judge, who will make whatever decision seems right to him or her at that moment. One little piece of advice, if you get a female judge, knock off the anti-woman hostility, or things will not go well for you.
The reality is that more women campaigned for thir rights and the men got left behind. i am sure you have rights but you need to go out there and find out about them.
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